Introducing a new regular feature I won’t update as often as I should: Women Wednesday. It is what it says on the box: I’ll use these posts to highlight articles and news I think is relevant to women, Christian women specifically. Beware the decidedly feminist tint :).
“Our understanding of adulthood needs to be clarified and decoupled from sexual activity or marital status.”
First up we have an article from her.meneutics, “A Grown-Up, Not Sexed-Up, View of Womanhood” by Tish Harrison Warren. Warren talks about how society equates female adulthood almost solely with sexual availability (cf Miley Cyrus’ VMA performance), thereby denying unmarried or celibate women full adult status. She then offers ideas about how the church can induct young adults into adulthood without focusing exclusively on sexuality.
Secondly there’s this great article on “strong female characters” and why that’s a potluck of oppression. “Part of the patronising promise of the Strong Female Character,” writes Sophia McDougall, “is that she’s anomalous.”
What happens when one tries to fit other iconic male heroes into an imaginary “Strong Male Character” box? A few fit reasonably well, but many look cramped and bewildered in there. They’re not used to this kind of confinement, poor things. They’re used to being interesting across more than one axis and in more than two dimensions.
Call me “a strong female character”, I dare you.
Have a great Wednesday!
But what “complementarians” are talking about is hierarchy; more specifically patriarchy — MALE RULE. The folks with penises get to be in charge and say what’s what.
Rachel Held Evans called them out on this last week with an eminently sane post, saying, “Complementarianism is patriarchy—nothing more, nothing less.” I would go further — in most cases, complementarianism is a purely theoretical construct that bears little resemblance to how most modern love marriages actually function.
Read the rest: “Complementarianism” Is a Sham | internetmonk.com.
This is my second book review for Blogging for Books*. Not even being on the same continent as marriage, I was kind of sceptical about Love, Sex, and Happily Ever After. But it was either this or Christian fiction (shudder) so here we are.
No regrets! If you’re going to write a Christian book at least have the good grace to make it humorous, and Craig doesn’t disappoint. Love, Sex, and Happily Ever After is insightful, practical and witty. It’s obvious that Craig’s advice is steeped in both love for the Lord and years of experience.
It turns out it isn’t just for about-to-be-weds or newly-weds or just-plain-weds after all. If you picture a wedding somewhere (anywhere) in your future, this book is worth a read. It’s not a dating guide and it won’t deliver Instant And Lasting Love. But it will show you how foundational to life and marriage an intimate relationship with God is. It’s enriching.
My only complaint: the two chapters devoted to the roles of husbands and wives. Craig interprets Ephesians 5:21 in light of 5:22 and not vice versa—putting wives’ submission front and centre instead of mutual submission (courtesy mentions at the tail-ends of chapters do not count, you see). It undermines the whole message of the book which, as a whole, I thought was rather good.
The book’s best line is probably: “Is oral moral?” Yes, actual chuckling.
Overall, I rate it four out of five.
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Related: Praying for one’s future Two.
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*This means I received a free copy in exchange for a review.